Brown Nuggets

Not That Into Me?

So, I've read the book. And watched the movie.

Actually I watched the movie first and then ran out to buy the book.

Point is, I understand now. I think. That I am the rule and not the exception. And that while he may like me to a certain extent. It is probably not enough for him to put in any more effort than what he's giving at the moment.

Do I think that's good enough? Do I want to wait around for him to make up his mind or get his act together? Do I want to waste any more time? Obviously not...

Quite frankly, I have better things to do with my time and there are others who are trying ten times harder and more deserving of a chance.

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Food for Thought
How much you exercise is as important as how much you eat when you are not exercising...

I need to stop junking.

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And so, I have resolved...

1) Not to reply to his smses (which are way too infrequent for my liking anyway). Plus, I sent him a serious text last week after our date and he didn't even bother to reply. And now, it seems as if he has conveniently swept everything under the carpet. Or is he going to pretend that he didn't receive the sms? Well, if he really wishes to find out why I'm suddenly not replying to his text, he can jolly well try harder. Call me, drop by my place or the airport. Whatever. I'm sure he can be resourceful if he wants to. And if he doesn't even seek an explanation and decides to let me disappear from his life without a word, doesn't it just prove that he wasn't that into me in the first place?

2) To tell him (if he is sincere enough to persuade me to meet him) exactly where I stand and the minimum standard that I have of a relationship. I'm not putting up with any more nonsense. If someone is truly into you, wouldn't he want to spend more time with you? Wouldn't he make more effort in planning dates and on special occasions? Wouldn't he call or stay in touch in some way even when it's not possible to meet? Wouldn't he be more generous?

3) From now on, to never "settle" for anyone. I'll rather be single and happy than spend my time with someone below standards or impossible to decipher. If you really like someone and want to be with her, I'm sure you'll do everything in your power to let her know how you feel, impress her and make her like you too right?

4) To not bat an eyelid when someone brags about his past or tells me how fit/caring/disciplined/organised he used to be. Yesterday is not today. Today is today. And just like you are not supposed to fall in like with someone's potential, isn't it also pointless to dream up possibilities with someone's past? Who you are at present is what matters. The effort you make to turn your life around now is what matters. Go take stock of your life and pull yourself together before looking me up again.

And if I am not worth your effort, well then that is no loss for me because I can defintely do better...

posted by Pocahontas @ 2:44 PM