Brown Nuggets

Airing the Laundry

When it comes to relationships (and even leadership), I've always felt that any praise should be done openly (to improve the confidence and self-esteem) and any admonishing (or constructive criticisms) should be done in private.

In the short 9 months that we have been together, Des and I have had our share of storms and quarrels (we are definitely not perfect and we do often have disagreements) but I do not blog about it and tell my girlfriends (or worst still - guyfriends) about it because I respect him and I treasure the relationship.

If that makes my blog boring, then so be it :o)

Correct me if I'm wrong but doesn't airing your laundry on such a public blog make the relationship very vulnerable to external attacks? If you and your partner are already going through a tough time, a very willing third party with a sympathetic ear (and perhaps an ulterior motive) will really push the relationship over the edge.

Why would you want to invite others to criticise your partner (whom you love)? Isn't the relationship just about the two of you? Shouldn't a couple present a united front rather than appear weak and divided? By all means have your disagreements but do so in private. A war cannot be won if your enemies know your weakness.

posted by Pocahontas @ 12:45 PM