Brown Nuggets

Crossing the Line

Where does friendship end and courtship begin?

Call me conservative but is it appropriate to initiate sharing food/drinks/straws or be too touchy with a friend of the opposite sex?

For me - Nope (that was not the way I was brought up)

Lunching/dining, catching movies or going shopping together is perfectly fine with me but I feel that certain behaviours and actions (such as buying gifts for no particular reason, sharing deep and emotional thoughts, joking about being a couple, spending too much time together) tend to imply interest.

I do not agree that all friends of the opposite sex share some kind of special connection - as if there might be a possibility of a future relationship.

Was it my fault to have misinterpreted someone's interest in me once upon a time?

I choose to think not.

I have always been very careful not to send any mixed signals as that tends to confuse and hurt friendships.

Not too long ago, I was deeply hurt and offended by the behaviour and actions of someone I considered a good friend. He subsequently started ignoring me and I was not given the luxury of airing my grieviances.

I was angry for a long time but I've come to realize that perhaps some people are just raised differently. However, that should not be an excuse to flirt shamelessly and make fun of those around you.

Fortunately, now that I'm happily attached, I no longer have to puzzle myself over the mysterious behaviour of some men.

posted by Pocahontas @ 5:04 PM